People often speak without thinking, becoming bulls in the china shops of human emotions. Others speak with bad intent — they seek to subvert others’ efforts because of jealousy, imaginary competition, and a false belief that there is a scarcity of success to be had. One of the saddest examples of this phenomenon is often seen at the workplace, where insecure managers consistently torpedo their own people, in efforts to polish their own stars. No matter the reason, lasting damage to people’s optimism is often caused with just a few words.
A person can make himself or herself invulnerable when he or she realizes this one simple truth, so well spoken by America’s former First Lady:
No one can make you feel inferior
without your consent.