Success is empty and hollow without sincere, good friendships. The problem of course, is that most friendships are not true lasting friendships; rather, they are shallow friendships of convenience that do not weather the storms, the misunderstandings, the disagreements, the years, or the separations. A friend is not a friend if they only show up when they need your support.
As with all worthy pursuits in life, great friendships require optimism and action. To have great friendships, you must invest valuable time and positive energy. Even the most beautiful flower withers without water, food, and sunshine.
Consider my top ten thoughts about friendship:
True friendships are one of the best measures of a person’s net worth.
A person is rich if he has three true friends to count on, no matter what happens over the coming decades.
True friendship always is based on true understanding of each other. Friends strive to understand and to be understood.
Do not plunge into friendship quickly. Be nice to everyone but intimate with few. Make sure those few have passed many tests.
Trust is essential. It is worse to distrust your friend than to be deceived by her.
You must seek, you must invest the time, you must plant the seeds and nurture the saplings of friendship, dozens or even hundreds of times, to earn one true lifelong friend.
Listening, remembering, understanding, empathizing, collaboration, and forgiveness are critical ingredients of friendship. People that only talk of themselves barely rank as acquaintances.
Keeping your friend’s secrets secret, even if she did not ask you to, is priceless.
Friendship requires that you tell your friend the truth and your sincere opinion, not what he wants to hear.
True friends love their friend, no matter her faults, frailties, and blessings. A true friend only wishes for the best, no matter the situation.
Is there a good friend that you have neglected over the last few years? Today is the day to pick up the phone and rekindle that connection. We are all too busy — that’s not an excuse. The paperwork can wait. Don’t let him or her get away for lack of effort and optimism at your end.
I.M. Optimism Man